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Benjamin Franklin, The Courage to Be Disliked, The Martian, Eckhart Tolle, and The Four Immeasurables


Sunday Supplement #7 (June 27th, 2021)

Below is another Sunday Supplement with a quote worth sharing, a book worth reading, a movie worth watching, brainfood worth consuming, and a spiritual passage worth pondering.

I hope you take something away from this post that enriches your week ahead!

Quote of the Week:

“An investment in knowledge pays the best interest.”

– Benjamin Franklin

This Benjamin Franklin quote is a good reminder that investing in yourself is one of the wisest decisions you can make.

I can be a little tight with money at times, and I want to cultivate a healthier and more positive relationship with my finances. I’ve incorporated asking myself if a purchase will help me grow to gauge whether or not I should buy it. Another method I picked up from Tim Ferriss is to ask myself, 1 out of 10, if the purchase will be something I enjoy short-term and long-term. No 6’s! It makes things a lot clearer.

Book of the Week:

The Courage to Be Disliked – Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga

Most people know about Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung. Both are dubbed by many as the fathers of Western psychology. The Courage to Be Disliked focuses on Alfred Adler, who was a contemporary with Freud and Jung but isn’t as widely known. Adler was one of the first peers to split from Freud and was the founder of the school of individual psychology. 

Kishimi and Koga base their book on the work of Adler. It is written in a captivating style of discussion between a teacher and a student. They use the Socratic method of dialogue to convey the teachings of Adler. The text focuses on how you can free yourself from past identities and limitations and how to embrace change. 

The Courage to Be Disliked was a phenomenon in Japan and has been translated into multiple languages, including English. The book is a short read that flows by effortlessly. It is a fascinating read and is worth checking out. 

I’m looking forward to reading their follow-up, The Courage to Be Happy

Movie of the Week:

The Martian

Astronaut, Mark Watney, is left behind on Mars during an emergency evacuation after his crew assumes him dead. He uses his skills and the supplies left to him to try and survive years in a scenario that was only supposed to last a couple of months. While battling with his situation and the elements to stay alive, Watney has to find a way to contact Earth and come up with a plan to make it home.

The Martian was nominated for seven Academy Awards, including Best Motion Picture of the Year, Best Performance by an Actor in a Leading Role, and Best Writing – Adapted Screenplay. Matt Damon put in one of his best performances and was critical to the film’s success because of his immense presence on the screen. Ridley Scott directed the movie and used his vast experience to orchestrate all the components necessary for the final product. He had a run of poorly received films after American Gangster (2007), but he reminded critics and movie-goers of his talents behind the camera with 2015’s The Martian.

Drew Goddard adapted the screenplay from Andy Weir’s debut novel. Weir initially published the book in serial format, one chapter at a time on his website. He had a decent following from work he posted on his website, but his writing was a hobby at the time. Readers asked him to make The Martian available on Kindle, so Weir put it up for 99 cents. It quickly became a best-seller, and he later sold the rights to Crown Publishing Group. The success from the book and the movie allowed him to pursue writing full-time. His latest novel Project Hail Mary was released in May.

The Martian is one of my favorite feel-good movies. It has an excellent story and is visually stunning. The performances from all that were involved are wonderful. It is a fun film and one that should leave you smiling by the time the credits roll.

*The backstory on Andy Weir’s writing of The Martian is from a Q&A included on the Kindle version of The Martian

Brainfood of the Week:

Russell Brand’s interview with Eckhart Tolle on his podcast Under the Skin.

I’ve already discussed Russell Brand in my 2nd Sunday Supplement, so I’ll go right into a brief description for Eckhart Tolle.

Tolle is a spiritual teacher, public speaker, and best-selling author. His biggest endorsement probably comes from Oprah Winfrey. In 2008, she hosted a 10 episode web-series with Tolle based on his book, A New Earth. In a 2017 interview with him, she stated that what she learned from him “eliminated all stress from her life.”

Tolle has many other celebrity endorsements, but that isn’t always a positive for me. There are many celebrity-backed products that I don’t support and wouldn’t recommend to others. However, I’m glad that Tolle’s work has been highlighted by many.

In the podcast with Russell Brand, you get an idea of the kind of material Tolle teaches in his books. The interview is an enlightening discussion and one that made me a fan of Brand’s podcast. My issue with most interviews and podcasts is the host interrupting the guest. Brand gives great prompts to Tolle and lets him answer questions without interference. If you like the interview and want to check out more of Tolle’s work, I suggest checking out his YouTube page and his book The Power of Now.

Closing Spiritual Passage:

The Four Immeasurables – Buddhist Prayer

May everyone be happy,
May everyone be free from misery, 

May no one ever be separated from their happiness,
May everyone have equanimity, free from hatred and attachment.

The Four Immeasurables are a series of virtues in Buddhism. They are closely linked to meditation practices and are discussed in various Buddhist texts. The four virtues can be translated as— Loving-kindness, Compassion, Empathetic Joy, and Equanimity.

I’ve incorporated a mediation practice into my daily routine. It is something that helps me slow things down and puts me in a calm state. I do a little gratitude exercise before or after my meditation, which helps make positivity a habit. The difference in my days when I’m meditating vs. not meditating is why I’ve worked to make meditating a non-negotiable.

The above prayer is one I’ve been reflecting on lately. I encourage you to look into it and see the different variations and what they mean. It is a worthwhile exercise.

Have a blessed week ahead!

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Jack Kornfield, Armistead Maupin, Moonlight, Daryl Davis, and Surah Ghafir 40:60


Sunday Supplement #6 (June 20th, 2021)

Below is another Sunday Supplement with a quote worth sharing, a book worth reading, a movie worth watching, brainfood worth consuming, and a spiritual passage worth pondering.

I hope you take something away from this post that enriches your week ahead!

Quote of the Week:

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

– Jack Kornfield

Book of the Week:

Tales of the City – Armistead Maupin

Armistead Maupin was born in Washington, D.C., and grew up in Raleigh, North Carolina. He served as a naval officer in the Mediterranean and had a tour in Vietnam before returning home and working as a reporter for a newspaper in Charleston, South Carolina. In 1971, Maupin took a job with the Associated Press in San Francisco and moved out to the West Coast. Because of this move to the more open San Francisco, he announced his homosexuality publicly in 1974.

Tales of the City also came out in the mid-70s when Maupin joined the Pacific Sun newspaper. The story started as a serial and took off when Maupin brought it over to the San Francisco Chronicle after the Pacific Sun folded. Tales of the City, the novel, was published in 1978 after the success of the serial.

Tales of the City is full of adventure and packed with a lot of laughs. It starts with the narrative of Mary Ann Singleton as she visits a friend living in San Francisco in 1976. She decides to stay in the city and make the move permanent during her trip. The novel proceeds to follow Mary Ann as she navigates her way through this exciting new city and tries to make it home. The people she meets float in and out of her life, and those same people have their own narratives throughout the novel that tie everything together.

Because of its original serial format, the chapters are short and snappy. The characters come from a wide array of backgrounds, and there is something to connect you with all of them. It is a fun read and one that is perfect for the beach this summer. 

There have been a few adaptations of Maupin’s work over the years, the latest on Netflix with Laura Linney starring, but I’d say the book should be your first experience with the story. The Tales of the City series spans nine novels, so if you enjoy the first, there’s plenty more to follow!

Movie of the Week:

Moonlight

I saw Moonlight in theaters without knowing anything about the movie. A friend told me to see it, and I’m glad I did. There haven’t been too many films in recent years that fully explore how much the medium of filmmaking can depict. This movie was an experience that few encapsulate.

Moonlight is told in three parts. The story focuses on the character Chiron at three seminal points in his life. A different actor plays Chiron in each segment, but each brings a considerable presence to the screen. The timeline covers Chiron at ages 11, 17, and 25. Each part depicts his struggle with his identity and sexuality and the experiences of isolation, abuse, and neglect. 

Barry Jenkins directed and wrote the film. He adapted the screenplay from Tarell Alvin McCraney’s play, took the non-linear story, and crafted it into three linear parts. Jenkins and McCraney grew up in the same area but did not meet during childhood. They had mutual experiences that helped Jenkins tap into the story he wanted to tell. In particular, Jenkins allowed and utilized a lot of the film to be revealed in silence. The emotions each actor conveys throughout the movie are more powerful than words. And when the characters do speak, their dialogue has immense weight.

The acting is a masterclass from all who were involved. Each actor who played the different ages of Chiron shone. The same can be said for the actors who played Chiron’s friend Kevin. Mahershala Ali won the Oscar for Best Performance by an Actor in a Supporting Role, and Naomie Harris was nominated for Best Performance by an Actress in a Supporting Role. While it’s clear why both of these actors were highlighted, everyone in the film deserves to be recognized.

Moonlight expertly explores and depicts what can be seen on the surface vs. what’s underneath. It is a fantastic film that hits on many levels. The ending left me wanting more closure, but I still think the movie is one of the best I’ve seen in theaters in the last decade.

Brainfood of the Week:

*Might need a Spotify account to access

Joe Rogan’s interview with Daryl Davis on his podcast The Joe Rogan Experience

Joe Rogan is someone who divides opinion. He is a stand-up comedian, an actor, and a martial artist who regularly comments for the UFC. Rogan’s life story is an interesting one, but that isn’t why he’s part of this post.  Rogan was one of the first people on the podcasting scene and created a massive platform over the years. While I’m not a fan of some of the episodes, he has conducted great interviews with many different people. An example of one of the better ones is his conversation with Daryl Davis.

Daryl Davis’s father was a Department of State Foreign Service officer, so he grew up moving around the world and lived in different countries during his childhood. When he moved back to the States, he experienced his first encounters with racism. In the podcast, Davis describes the initial incident as one that stuck with him, ingrained with the question “Why?”.

While Davis initially found his calling as a Blues and R&B musician, he came across another path that has changed many lives. He recounts a meeting with a Ku Klux Klan member that ultimately grew into a friendship. From that point on, Davis became an activist (although he might not use those words) in the fight against racism. To date, he has influenced over 200 Ku Klux Klan members to leave the brotherhood.

Davis’s story is amazing, and the podcast interview on The Joe Rogan Experience is worth the listen. There are great stories and powerful messages delivered throughout the episode. 

Closing Spiritual Passage:

“Call upon me, I will respond to you.”

– Surah Ghafir 40:60

This passage from the Quran reminds me of the power of prayer and how it is a good thing to ask for help when you need it. Asking for help is something I still need to work on, but reminding myself that it is okay is a good place to start. 

Prayer is also something I’ve worked to incorporate into my life. I was told that prayer can be divided into two types: thank you and please help. I gravitate toward gratitude in my prayers, but the above passage is also a reminder for me to ask for help when I need it.

Have a blessed week ahead, be compassionate with yourself, and ask for help if you need it!

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Brianna Wiest, Haruki Murakami, October Sky, Robert Rodriguez, and Romans 12:2


Sunday Supplement #5 (June 13th, 2021)

Below is another Sunday Supplement with a quote worth sharing, a book worth reading, a movie worth watching, brainfood worth consuming, and a spiritual passage worth pondering.

I hope you take something away from this post that enriches your week ahead!

Quote of the Week:

“One day, the mountain that is in front of you will be so far behind you, it will barely be visible in the distance. But the person you become in learning to get over it? That will stay with you forever. And that is the point of the mountain.”

– Brianna Wiest

Book of the Week:

Norwegian Wood – Haruki Murakami

I’ve read eleven Murakami books. His prose always reads like stepping into a dream. Many of his stories have otherworldly elements, but they keep the reader grounded in a setting that feels familiar. It is as if he writes about a place that is around the corner, just out of sight, waiting for you to come and see.

Norwegian Wood is one of Murakami’s more straightforward novels. It follows Toru Watanabe as he reflects on his college days in 1960s Tokyo— a time marked by political and cultural upheaval. The narrative picks up after the death of Toru’s best friend, Kizuki. It explores Toru’s relationship with Kizuki’s girlfriend, Naoko, and how they cope after Kizuki’s death. Even though they take different paths, they are still connected by the past.

The backstory of how Murakami became a writer is as wondrous as his books. He married while in university and worked multiple jobs with his wife to make enough money to open a jazz café. After years of hard work -finding solace in music and books- Murakami went to a baseball game that changed his life. At the crack of a base-hit late in the game, the idea came to Murakami that he could write a novel. Over the next six months, he hand-wrote Hear the Wind Sing, his first novel. The first draft was understandably bad, but Murakami pursued the next draft in an intriguing way. He wrote it in English, then translated it back to Japanese. This allowed for Murakami to write in a much simpler style, differing from the literary language used by most Japanese writers at the time. 

When Murakami finished writing Hear the Wind Sing, he sent it off to the literary journal Gunzo. He didn’t realize he sent his only copy. A year later, Murakami received a call that his book had been shortlisted for their new writer’s prize. He has written fourteen novels and six short story collections to date. All but one short story collection is translated into English.

Norwegian Wood is one of the best novels to start with for readers new to Murakami. It is one of his shorter works and doesn’t have as many mystical elements that might distract some new readers. There is some graphic content in the book, and it splits opinion among his ardent fans, but I think it’s worth the look.

Let me know what you think!

*The backstory on how Murakami became a writer is from his introduction to Hear the Wind Sing

Movie of the Week:

October Sky

October Sky is based on the true story of Homer Hickam, a coal miner’s son from a small town in West Virginia. Homer was inspired by the first Sputnik launch and began to learn about and experiment with rocketry. His endeavors were ridiculed by most of the town and severely discouraged by his father. Despite the negativity, and with the help of a few supporters, Homer and his friends reached far beyond the small coal-mining town they were born to.

Jake Gyllenhaal stars alongside veteran actors Chris Cooper and Laura Dern. His performance showcased his talent and ability as an actor even at a young age. It’s not too surprising that he would shine in front of a camera, though, given that his father Stephen is an Emmy-nominated director and his mother Naomi Former is an Oscar-nominated writer. Despite being around the entertainment industry, his parents wanted Jake to grow up outside of the Hollywood bubble. They kept Jake grounded and didn’t let him take many roles early on. October Sky was the first leading role his parents OK’d and was filmed when he was 17.

The movie came out in 1999, an excellent year for television and film. Debut seasons for The West Wing and The Sopranos, and release dates for The MatrixFight Club, and The Green Mile are just some of the famous milestones from Hollywood that year. Unfortunately, October Sky isn’t often remembered when recounting films from that time. 

Even though it didn’t make waves at the box office or in the press, the movie performed well with critics and audiences— a 91% critics rating and a 88% audience score on Rotten Tomatoes support that statement. It is an excellent feel-good film and one you should check out if you’re looking for an uplifting watch.

Brainfood of the Week:

Tim Ferriss’s interview with Robert Rodriguez on his podcast The Tim Ferriss Show

Rodriguez is a director, writer, producer, editor, composer… the list goes on. He is mainly known for his movies: DesperadoThe Spy Kids franchise, Sin City, and Machete

This interview is one of my favorite episodes so far on The Tim Ferriss Show. Tim’s prep work shows in the questions he asks and allows Rodriguez to cover a lot of his life story. His accomplishments in film are immense, and there are many tidbits in the interview that I picked up and incorporated into my own routines.

In part of the episode, Rodriguez delves into the making of his first movie— told in full in his book Rebel Without a Crew. While he was on break in film school, he raised $7,000 (partly by volunteering for a clinical pharmaceutical research trial) and wrote a feature-length screenplay. He then went to Mexico and virtually as a one-man crew shot the entire film with some help from friends and their connections. Rodriguez then did all of the post-production and drove to Hollywood to shop the finished product around. The result was a deal with Columbia Pictures and a spot at Sundance.

The episode also delves into other areas of Rodriguez’s career since his breakthrough and what he’s learned from the journey. There are some cool stories with name-drops like Robert De Niro and Quentin Tarantino sprinkled throughout. It’s an exciting listen and one you will surely gain something from.

Closing Prayer/Passage:

Romans 12:2 — Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

The passage from Romans above reminds me of a conversation I had with a friend in college. My friend told me a Nigerian saying that I will never forget. Roughly translated, it means— “Only dead people cannot learn. If you are not continually learning, you are equivalent to a dead person.”

It’s a heavy reminder of what it means to believe we know everything. 

But to approach it from a positive place, I look at the Romans 12:2 passage and set the goal to keep growing and learning, to keep striving to be a better person each day.

Have a blessed week ahead, and I hope you learn something new!

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Eleanor Roosevelt, Stephen King, Collateral, Cognitive Distortions, and an Atharva Veda Passage


Sunday Supplement #4 (June 6th, 2021)

Below is another Sunday Supplement with a quote worth sharing, a book worth reading, a movie worth watching, brainfood worth consuming, and a spiritual passage worth pondering.

I hope you take something away from this post that enriches your week ahead!

Quote of the Week:

“A good leader inspires people to have confidence in the leader. A great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves.”

-Eleanor Roosevelt

Book of the Week:

Eyes of the Dragon – Stephen King

Eyes of the Dragon takes place in the medieval setting of Delain. The kingdom mourns the death of their king, who was murdered in strange circumstances. An evil wizard plots to see the king’s son, Peter, imprisoned for his father’s murder, which would put Peter’s irresolute younger brother in line for the throne. Peter is the only one who knows the truth, and only he can save Delain from the evil wizard’s plans.

On the cover jacket of the 1st edition, King stated, “Although I had written thirteen novels by the time my daughter had attained an equal number of years, she hadn’t read any of them. She’s made it clear that she loves me but has very little interest in my vampires, ghouls, and slushy crawling things.” He goes on to assure readers that it wasn’t a children’s book either— “I respected my daughter enough then – and now – to try and give her my best… and that includes a refusal to ‘talk down.’ Or put another way, I did her the courtesy of writing for myself as well as for her.”

The book wasn’t well-received by King’s following at the time, though. A few years later, he wrote Misery. Interestingly, Misery’s plot follows an author who tries to break free from his typecast by killing off the main character of his popular Romance series, only to be later taken captive by a deranged fan and forced to write another book in the series. I always thought Misery was a subtle (or not so subtle) jab at his followers for the reception of Eyes of the Dragon.

Stephen King is often unfairly labeled as just a horror author. There are actually many of his books that disprove this typecast. I didn’t read King for a long time because I didn’t like horror. However, I’m glad I gave his books a chance. There’s a reason he’s one of the most famous authors alive. And I believe there is a King book out there for everyone. Eyes of the Dragon is one for those who are fans of Fantasy.

Movie of the Week:

Collateral

The 2004 Drama/Thriller follows a cab driver grinding out shifts to make enough money for his own limo company. The audience is introduced to the driver, Max, and sees a pleasant exchange between him and a fare, Annie. His next fare turns out to be a contract killer, Vincent. Over the course of the night, Vincent forces Max to escort him to and from each of his hits. All of the dots end up connecting.

Jamie Foxx plays the cab driver, and Tom Cruise plays the contract killer. Both excel in their roles and drive the movie forward with captivating performances. Jada Pinkett Smith and Mark Ruffalo hold their own with significantly less screen time, and brilliant cameos from Javier Bardem and Barry Shabaka Henley round out the top-class acting. 

The screenplay is a perfect puzzle with no extra pieces. And each piece is a crucial element to the overall story. Director, Michael Mann, put the actors through the paces to bring the story to life. Months of prep work went into the character building, which only shows on the screen in the flow of the acting, but it was crucial for bringing out the intensity of the movie. The detail that went into creating the film’s world can be seen on the DVD extras in the making of the film

*If you want to see how months went into choreography, character building, scene prep, camera work, art direction, and the score of the film, check out the link— it gives a stunning inside look into how much work can go into the making of a movie.

Collateral has so much depth from a simple story because of the original script by Stuart Beattie. That framework allowed everyone involved to bring their expertise and talents to the table, which resulted in the powerful final product. The movie’s competence and quality in all departments are what makes it last in the annals of film history. It is certainly worth checking out for a future movie night.

Brainfood of the Week:

Cognitive Distortions: 10 Examples of Distorted Thinking” – Healthline.com article

Cognitive distortions are thought patterns that promote inaccurate, usually negative, ways to view reality.

– Failing when trying something for the first time and assuming that you’re not good at it or that it’s not for you.

– Being able to cheer others’ accomplishments but not your own— Viewing what you did as not great and being subjectively negative about achievements. 

These are examples of cognitive distortions. They can occur as random thoughts or when you’re tired and stressed. But they can become habits if done often, which results in increased anxiety, depression, and difficulty interacting with others.

The Healthline.com article discusses the types of cognitive distortions, where they come from, and how you can change them. It is a useful article to review and can be a valuable tool for understanding these types of behavior. 

Whether cognitive distortions are something you experience or are something you see in the actions of others, being able to identify them is extremely helpful in recognizing and breaking out of the negative viewpoint.

Closing Prayer/Passage:

“Do not be led by others, awaken your own mind, amass your own experience, and decide for yourself your own path.”

– Atharva Veda

Something I’ve worked on over the past year is being present and being able to speak up and advocate for myself. It’s still a work in progress, but I believe listening to your heart is crucial in living your best life.

That doesn’t mean I’m always right, but it’s a good compass to go by, and I hope to always learn from my mistakes.

Have a blessed week ahead, and listen to your heart!

*P.S. My apologies to anyone who filled out a contact form on the Contact tab. There was an issue with the programming, and I did not receive your message. I have fixed the problem, and I will now be able to receive messages.

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